What if you never hear the words “will you marry me”. What if God came down tonight and told you that a husband and being a wife was not something He had in store for you but something greater.
Would you quit serving Him? Would your prayer life come to an end? Would you jump off a bridge? Would you still go to church? Would you still seek Gods face?
Yes, I know I’m being “extra” but the truth is God doesn’t owe us a man and some of us are basing our entire existence around this ONE moment…When Mr. Right will get down on his knee, ask us to be his wife and whisk us off into the sunset to live happily ever after. We start off our statements with “when I meet my husband” as though life suddenly starts when we have a ring on our finger.
If its one thing God did in me this past year is pop my little fairytale, Disney land bubble. The bubble of perfection and fantasy that most of us women have when it comes to what marriage TRULY is about. What the Hollywood movies don’t show is the arguments, the flaws, the tears, the brokenness, the two people both having jacked up pasts and having to undo ALL of the garbage they’ve picked up along the way… and they DEFINITELY don’t show Jesus HAVING to be at the center of it.
I think we kind of adopted that “fairytale” idea of thinking and just put a Christianized twist to it. Instead of calling him “prince charming” we call him “Boaz”. Instead of calling our selves a princess we call ourselves “Ruth”. But the reality is Boaz was a mere man. He was not JESUS. He was not perfect. He had flaws, and I’m sure he had issues, just like every other great man mentioned in the bible.
We cannot put our life on hold for a ring because in all honesty, it may not happen. I know that is not the most popular thing to say but that is the REALITY. We can “declare and decree” all day long that this is our year to get married but ultimately our love lives are in God’s hand and I honestly believe with all my heart that His desire is for us to be so enamored and SO in love with Him that marriage would be the icing on our cake and not what we’re waiting on to complete us.
Francis Chan is probably one of my FAVORITE preachers and authors (Please read Crazy Love, it’ll change ya life!) because he focuses on loving God and our lives being a reflection of that. His sermons are really what helped me to start thinking about eternity and the fact that I have work to do here on this earth and I can’t afford to just sit here and waste time focused on anything that is temporary. The reality is, I can DIE tomorrow. (I know someone is reading that and saying “why would you say that” lol) but it’s the truth. That is the hardcore truth. I can die tomorrow as a SINGLE woman. How would I have wanted to spend my last days on earth? Using my gifts to bless other women or complaining about my relationship status? I get caught up sometimes, not gonna even lie, but when I start to think about that question, it quickly snaps me back to reality.
The bottom line is this. We cannot afford to waste anymore time moping around and complaining. Like, are we not aware of how more and more ratchet this world is getting? How crazy and evil these times are? Who else is gonna be the “light” in this world but US, His sons and daughters? How can we be the light and be purpose driven if our ONLY purpose is making down the altar. Heaven is the finish line, not the altar. Let’s stay focused. Lets use our gifts and talents to serve Him wholeheartedly. If you’re single, take FULL advantage of this time to just sit at His feet. Learn how to be alone with just Him. Enjoy life. Smile. Laugh. Enjoy life. Serve like crazy. Love on people like crazy. Give like crazy. CHOOSE to live life to the fullest for His glory with or without a ring.
Love Ya’ll! xox
Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand.- Colossians 3:2
“You must not have any other god but me.”- Exodus 20:3
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.”- Mathew 22:37
P.S – Marriage is a GIFT from God that He created for His glory. It’s just that we need to make sure that we’re always worshipping the creator and not His creation. If you’re at the place where you KNOW you’ve been making marriage an idol, confess it to God. Be real with Him, and ask Him to help you to be consumed by Him and not marriage. It’s a process. Don’t beat yourself up. xox