YOUTUBE VIDEO: The Truth Behind Purity Rings…

The Truth Behind Purity Rings..
  
If you haven’t already, check out my latest youtube video “The Truth Behind Purity Rings”… I discuss how important it is to not only  concern ourselves with the APPEARANCE of purity but with a heart transformation through the power of the holy spirit. A ring doesn’t KEEP us pure but walking in the ways of the Lord by His grace will…
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Love yall! 

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It’s Okay To NOT Be Okay…

 It’s okay to not be okay. There’s this misconception that because you’re saved & now know the Lord, everything is ALWAYS going to be okay, all the time.. There won’t be any pain, any struggle, any tragedy, or any trial. We’re often programmed to present this mask of perfection and so we look around at all of the other “happy” people & feel like we must be doing something wrong. Everyone just seems so “blessed & highly favored” meanwhile your life seems to be cursed & a total mess. 

Yes, life can get messy. We can get messy. When it boils down to it, we’re all these “messy”, unstable, humans with a whole bunch of issues called sin. Than to top it all off, we’re often faced with life situations that just seem to add a whole other pile to our all ready “mess”.. 

But the “mess” is what makes the beauty of our Savior, Christ Jesus, shine so bright.. The fact that you don’t have to have it all figured out.. The fact that you don’t have to know all the answers.. The fact that you don’t have to have a plan A through F. You can trust the Lord. You can rest. You don’t have to perform for God to be accepted by Him. Believe that He is who He says He is & therefore He will do what He says He will do because of who He is.. 

You dealing with some stuff? That’s alright. You and the other 5 billion people on this planet. God sees. He never promised to keep us away from storms & trouble. He promised that He will walk with us through them. You are not alone.
Love yall..

-xo

Learn How To Fight…

brooklyn-street-art-joe-iurato-muhammad-ali-evolve-gallery-webI wish I could say how amazing and awesome this season of life feels and looks, but I would be lying. Yes, I know one day, I’ll be grateful for everything I’m going through because it would of have molded my character, made me more Christlike, and prepared me for my purpose…

Truthfully speaking, the process is painful. When the devil attacks, he goes IN. It hurts. You don’t know whether to laugh or to break down and cry. Back to back you keep getting tested and things are CONSISTENTLY falling apart. Your mind seems to be bombarded by the  voice of demons and the voice of your own hurt who tell you to quit and just give up. It’s the voice that makes you question whether or not God lied when He said in His word that He will never leave nor forsake you. It’s the voice that makes you even question Gods love for you..

I know because I’ve been there. I am there. But it’s in those moments where God, my Father has taught me how to fight. It’s in those moments where God has taught me to STAND on His shoulders when I’m tempted to just climb down, lay down and allow the devil to just have his way. It’s in those moments where I learned how to be a soldier and not just a spectator…

This is a guarantee: You WILL get tested. You will face trial, tribulation and suffering as a Christian. It is a PROMISE

1 Peter 4:12-13 Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you: but rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy.

Don’t be surprised. Suffering is A PART of this walk. As humans, we HATE suffering (I know I do) , but if we are to conform to Christ, its gonna take some struggle and it’s gonna hurt. This is where “cute christianity” goes out the window and we learn how to truly go to war for our faith. This is where mere sunday services and only praying before meals doesn’t cut it anymore… (and honestly, it never did)

The truth is, you’re going to have great days when your faith is through the roof., when even in the midst of your suffering, you still FEEL awesome. But you may also have days when your faith is hanging by a thread. It’s the ongoing war between what we know to be true through the word of God and how we feel through our emotions…

Suffering trained me to be a prayer warrior. On the days when I wanted to quit and just let satan have his way, prayer was the only weapon that kept me from losing the war. Whatever you do, don’t quit. You’re being sharpened. Your prayer life is being sharpened. You don’t roll over and just lay there. You fight. You pray. You read the word even when you don’t feel like it and it seems to be pointless. Now is the time to skip out on some outings, just to stay home and sit before God. Now is the time to put away every weight and distraction and cling to your faith like never before. Now is the time to learn what it means to be a solider for Christ and not just a spectator that attends church every once in awhile. Now is the time to partake in the same sufferings as our savior, who for the joy set before Him, endured the cross DISREGARDING it’s shame and who is now seated at the right hand of the throne of God…

Take heart. You are not alone. Your emotions are not god. He is faithful despite what you’re going through. Keep fighting by standing on the shoulders of God and keep in mind that this season will not last forever. For us Christians, there is hope and there is eternity with God to look forward to, when we realize that every single thing we ever went through on this earth was more than worth it…

Love y’all! xox

How My Husband Leaving Me, Changed Me….

By: Alicia King   

      
 My husband of 6 years asked me for a divorce on my birthday, February,22, 2015. After 2 years of us battling about his feelings towards me and his need to go else where, he finally asked for out. 

I was broken…
I spent half of my marriage trying to hold it together and it was exhausting. I prayed countless prayers for God to show him how much of a good thing I was. I cried and beg God so many times for him to love me and see me as the caring wife I had tried to be for him. I prayed for him to remember me as the one who supported him through his transition from an engineer to a pastor. I read every book on being a virtuous wife. I read all the books I could on restoration of marriages. I went for Christian counseling both at school and church. I asked God to show me what I needed to learn in this season, and I covered my husband, who was planning on leaving me, in prayer daily…

Fast forward to November, the papers were sitting on my dresser just a week from our daughter’s 4th birthday. I had so many emotions, and I honestly felt like God had let me down. I felt like this was suppose to be our big testimony.. I felt like we would be the ones to tell other married couples our “testimony” and they will come to know God and believe for restoration in their marriages too. I mean, after all, my husband was a Pastor.

Man, I was too wrong…

I had to realize that we can not determine God’s steps, but in order for God to determine ours, we have to be willing to surrender to His. My husband was stuck in his own ways and envisioned something different for his life. I was truly crushed, but I realized for the first time my husband had led me in the arms of God. He led me through his human weaknesses and imperfections. He led me to God through his hurtful words and distant demeanor. He led me to God when he was falling in love with someone else. He made me know for sure that nothing is safe and guaranteed but the love of Jesus. He made me leave his corrupt church and run to a church that showed me principles on how to walk into my purpose in the will of God. His hardened heart taught me to pray in difficulty, and it drove me to serve and surround myself around a body of believers.

During the filing of the divorce my mind was at peace, but my heart still longed to be with him. I battled with resisting sleeping with him in times where I felt I needed his love and attention, even if it was for a moment. I was so insecure, and I did not understand why I was not worth fighting for. During my mourning, I saw my husband at times as the pastor who orchestrated my funeral daily. He removed me from the life that I’ve known and killed all the dreams that I had for us. But GOD…. God will allow old dreams to die to bring forth new ones. I had to learn that prayer does not always change our situation, but it changes you in ways you’ll never imagine. Each day the pain got easier to bear, and I started smiling more and I thanked God that He blessed me with a joy that I can not even understand at times. Sometimes God will leave you out in dark to let you know that He’s the light that never fails. It’s only as time goes on that, that light begins to shine on the things we did not understand. We begin to see that there is always a purpose in God’s plan. Through the fire, God will at times bless you. Joseph in the bible was abandoned by his brothers, lied on, and God promoted him by the favor God has placed on his life. While I was going through the fire and difficulty, God surrounded me with prayer warriors. God got me through school with a degree with honors and awards. God allowed me to be the only student to graduate my year as a certified teacher on my campus. I watched as my other colleagues switched majors after difficulty passing the new teachers’ certification exams. I did not understand it, but now I know that God has a plan for me that far exceeded what I had for myself. He built a new confidence in me, and brought new hopes and dreams to my life again. I may not always get it right and some times I still struggle, but as I continue to grow in my walk, I realize I can not walk this life without God holding my hand.

Those of you who are having crisis in your marriage, this is not for you to lose heart and accept divorce as your end. Continue to hold on and pray and do not grow weary, because you serve a God who has your best interest at heart. For the single ladies, know that your relationship with God is vital in every decision you make. Just because you date a believer, does not necessarily mean you’re equally yoked. Pray about everything! I was only 22 years old when I got married with the rush to cover up our sexual immorality. Know ladies, that the wait outweighs the consequences of stepping outside the will of God. You can not go wrong with trusting God. Galatians 6:9 says “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” We see all through out the bible where the people of God had to wait, and although it’s never easy to wait, one thing is certain, God HONORS it.

Love,
Alicia King ❤️

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When God Doesn’t Hear Our Worship…

 

As I walk with the God in this journey of salvation, I’ve experienced countless failures. I face struggles, some easier to overcome than others I’ve made more mistakes than I could possibly count, some out of ignorance and some out of deliberate disobedience, even though I wouldn’t admit it at the time. You know.. those times when you know what the BIBLE says and you hear what the holy-spirit is SAYING yet in those moments you still choose to listen to your flesh. I would feel bad about it every time. I  would feel guilty. I would beat myself up and I would even cry about it but can I be real? The very fact that I felt “bad” and actually cried over”sin” made me feel super spiritual..I mean, hey we live in a world where most people have no regard for God and His word..  I actually feel bad about it. I’m  pretty alright… 

Than God made a few things super clear to me.

God doesn’t want me to JUST feel “bad” and be convicted. He’s looking for me to REPENT. To repent means to change directions. It means taking deliberate ACTION in moving AWAY from the sin that you were once entangled in. It’s deleting phone numbers that connect you to the people that cause you to stumble in your purity. It’s moving out of a girlfriend/boyfriends house. It’s turning away from watching pornography. It’s getting rid of the drugs completely. It’s DOING whatever is necessary while changing your MIND to  go in the direction of holiness and not sin. The whole point of conviction is for it to lead to REPENTANCE.. actual CHANGE. The problem was that I would feel better about my mess because I cried about it but I never really repented of it. I felt spiritual and good about myself because I cried at an altar.. God doesn’t want me to feel bad, God wants me to actually  OBEY…

Malachi 2:13-2:14 (NKJV)

You cover the altar of the Lord with tears,
With weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore,
Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
14 Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.

God is basically telling these priests that their offering and worship to the Lord was unacceptable.. but why? How can God disregard their precious tears?

Because they were worshipping God with their mouths but they weren’t worshipping God in their heart and with their ACTIONS in how they treated their wives privately. God is basically saying, “before you cover my alter with tears and offerings, worship me in SPIRIT and in TRUTH by honoring my word in the privacy of your own household. Other people may see your religious activity publically, but I see how you treat your wife privately, and it displeases Me.”

Maybe God is saying the same thing to some of us today. That before we cover our church alter in tears of worship, let us worship Him by repenting of the sin He’s been speaking to us about for months, maybe even years… that before we sing Hillsong’s latest hits in worship to God,  forgive that person who hurt us and who we still harbor hate in our hearts for.. that before we jump and scream in worship to God, let go of those things that are driving a clear wedge between you and the Lord.  God isn’t just searching for tears… He’s searching for obedience.. Do we want to show God how much we REALLY love Him? Than  it’s time to OBEY Him..

We are all in the process of growing. None of us, no matter how saved and sanctified we think we are, have “arrived”. We ALL have sin still lurking in our heart. Please do not get it  misconstrued and think that this message is about being PERFECT before you’re worthy enough to WORSHIP God. If that was the case, NONE of us would be qualified. For many of us, God has been speaking to us about the SAME thing over and over again and we ignore Him in complete disobedience. Sometimes we think we’re being “spiritual” when we’re really just being “stagnant”. Gods main concern is not our worship but the HEART behind our worship. In Isaiah 1, God speaks about actually being DISGUSTED by the worship of His people at that time. They were having all of these ceremonies, rituals, celebrations, offerings and all that good stuff, but their heart and their actions were totally wicked. God basically said, ” I would rather you not do or say anything AT all than for you to put on show because your worship isn’t genuine”. .. (Read it for yourself)

We’ve bought into this idea that worship is all about just singing and dancing in a Sunday service. I believe that worship doesn’t start on Sundays when the choir rises to sing it’s first song. but it starts throughout the week.. It starts privately. It starts in our heart. It’s not about being PERFECT by any means.. but God is a GOD who looks at the HEART and not just the religious action. Before we lift up our hands, let us lift up our HEARTS and be willing to worship Him in spirit and in TRUTH..giving up whatever He’s telling us to give up and showing how much we TRULY love Him by obeying His commandments through His grace and with His help…

love yall! xox

Saved And Broken Hearted..

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On social media, everything looks wonderful. There are the seemingly perfect courtships that end in marriage and the heartfelt captions on how God finally blessed them with “the one”. We see the beautiful journey of courtship followed by the grand proposal, the wedding photos and the instagram announcement that they’re pregnant. It all just seems so perfect…

And then there are the things that we don’t see. The things that we rarely if ever talk about, maybe because, to us, its not “pretty” enough; maybe because it’s not the perfect Christian fairytale that others seem to have. What we don’t see is the courtships that fail and the times when we genuinely believe that God told us a person is “the one” only for the relationship to go down in flames.. What we don’t talk about is how to get through a heartbreak as a Christian..

Every courtship doesn’t end in marriage. The whole point is to “court” with the INTENTION of marrying and to PREPARE for marriage but it is not marriage itself and the truth is sometimes it just won’t work out but often we do too much too soon. We treat someone who we’re COURTING as though they’re ALREADY our husband/wife. We’re already proclaiming to the world that they’re our “rib” or our “king”, when the truth is, you’re not his “rib” until you’re officially his wife under God and he isn’t your “covering” until he is officially your HUSBAND. Until then, God still recognizes you as two separate individuals. Again, we do too much too soon and so the “breakup” feels like a divorce because we acted like we were married simply because we felt like we “heard” God say that was “the one”…

And then it all falls apart..Now what? We’re beyond disappointed. We’re confused. We’re hurt and God forbid y’all go to the same church and have to constantly see each other. How do you maneuver? How do you heal? How do you get through? Here’s some of the things Gods shown me through my own mess.

1) While we see it as a bad breakup and a heartbreak, God sees it as an opportunity to transform our heart… Understand the sovereignty of God. ANYTHING we go through is because God ALLOWED it to happen and if He ALLOWED it, then it must have a PURPOSE behind it. God is not sloppy. He knows every single detail of our life and He knows EXACTLY what gets some of our attention. I cannot begin to tell you the things that God has revealed to me about ME through my last breakup and how much He’s taught me. Understand that God’s ultimate goal is to bring glory to Himself and to make us more and more like Him and two of the things He uses is pain and suffering. Some of my greatest times of GROWTH have been through my greatest times of GREIF. It’s bigger than a breakup. God is doing something in your heart and it goes far beyond just you and your boo breaking up..

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the LORD. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.-Isaiah 55:8

2) God is practical. Stop stalking your ex.
I would beg God to help me move on ; to help me move forward and to heal me. God responded by giving me clear instruction. STOP stalking him. Stop looking on his instagram page to see what he’s posting, to see what girls are commenting under his pictures and than clicking on her profile to see who she is. Stop stalking their tweets and trying to figure out if they’re secretly tweeting about you. Just stop. unfollow. block. do what you have to do but stalking will keep you stuck and on an emotional roller coaster. You’re making him an idol and you’re asking God to heal a wound while simultaneously picking at it. I had to be painfully blunt with myself and realize this: What my ex is doing and who he’s doing it with is none of my business. That chapter is closed. The same goes for you love. He doesn’t owe you anything. He’s no longer in your life right now for a reason. Let it go.

“but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead”- Phil 3:13

3) Let go of what was “suppose to be”.

Yes, you guys were “supposed” to get married. Yes, you guys were “supposed” to do ministry together. Yes, you guys had all of these plans but you can’t stay stuck on what was “supposed to be” and neglect the reality of what IS and the reality IS that it’s over. The door is closed and know that if it was a door that God still wanted OPEN, He would of opened it. This is where discipline comes into place..(casting down vain imaginations and every high things that exhalts itself against the knowledge of Christ. 2corinth 10:5).. in other words, when those thoughts of what was “supposed to be” pop up in your head, be INTENTIONAL about choosing to think on moving forward in Christ and trusting Him when it comes to your future.

4) Forgive your ex.

Regardless of the reason WHY you guys broke up, you need to forgive your ex. Yes, even if he cheated, lied, manipulated, whatever. God’s call for us to FORGIVE is not limited to everyone else but “them”..It’s hard, I know, but if God commanded it, than God will give us the grace to keep that commandment. Let go of the bitterness. Let go of the desire to make them jealous. Let go of the desire to see them miserable. Let it go. Forgive them. Do not allow bitterness to take root in your heart because you will infect the people around you. It will infect your ministry. It will infect your relationship with Christ. You must forgive him or her regardless of what they’ve done to you.

And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”-Mark 11:25

5) Heal.

Do not jump into the arms of another man/woman to make you feel better about yourself. When we’re hurt and in pain, we’re not thinking straight. We’re drunk off of hurt. You see ANYBODY as a “potential” at this point because you’re lonely and vulnerable.This is the PERFECT opportunity for the devil to send people your way to fake full advantage of your moment of weakness. I heard someone say ” the wrong person during a lonely season can cause you to think that they’re the one”.One thing that I loved as a result of my last breakup is that God truly became my BEST FRIEND. I clung to Him like crazy! why? because He was the only one that could truly get me through and honestly the “girl you’re gonna be okay” texts just weren’t enough. Though they helped, I was deeply hurt and needed GOD. I was praying several times a day to keep myself from crying and being an emotional wreck. Through that season I truly came to know God as a comforter, as a healer, as keeper and not just from what I read in some bible verses but from what I went through in real life and seeing how much He held me down every single step of the way and never left my side. It was hard, but He got me through it. Don’t take the easy way out and just go find some cutie to fill that void with. There are no shortcuts. Go deep with God. Allow Him to dig up the mess that’s in your heart. Don’t just try to use people as band-aids when God wants to perform heart surgery.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.-Psalms 147:3

Understand that this is so much bigger than just a breakup. It’s just a TOOL that God is using to get to your heart; to mould your character, to teach you about Himself, to teach you about forgiveness, to teach you patience. God’s focus is on something so much bigger. It’s on eternity. It’s on the cross. It’s on His children being pruned and sculpted to look more and more like His Son and sometimes it takes something like a painful breakup to get us to that pliable, vulnerable place where God wants us to be so that we’re now able to hear His voice and be open to His leading. God usually breaks before He builds. Don’t despise this heartbreak.. God is building something. Stick with Him through this process love! xox

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.-1 Peter 5:10

Join the “Pray For Our Boys ” Prayer Challenge!!!!

“Pray For Our Boys” Prayer Challenge!!

So excited for this! So I was inspired to come up w/this “challenge” based on conversations I’ve had in the past.. It’s super easy to be critical towards men & complain but what would happen if instead, we bombarded the gates of heaven on their behalf?.. Alot of our brothers are struggling with things that we have no clue about and we need to remember that they are our BROTHERS before anything else.. So the “challenge” is for the next 30 days to

1) Either choose 1 male to pray for over the course of 30 days. It can be ANYONE. Your professor. The garbage man. Your pastor. Your father. Your uncle. ANYONE

2) or choose a different man to pray for every day.. This isn’t about us, this is simply about interceding and HELPING them! Love yall!!

(The challenge starts tomorrow 7/28 – 8/26 )

The Beauty Of Conviction…

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2 Timothy 4:3- For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear…

You know that feeling..

It’s in the pit of your stomach when the preacher is preaching about something that you know God has been speaking to you about.. Its the feeling we feel when we avoid reading the bible because we know that it’s going to point out areas in our life that need to change.. It’s the feeling we feel when we listen to certain preachers who preach the word of God unapologetically and boldly.. It’s the feeling we feel when the pastor is talking about the sin of having sex outside of marriage, and our flesh wants to get up and walk out in the middle of service because “we dont wanna hear it”. Its the feeling of CONVICTION..

Naturally, we’re rebels. We don’t like being told what to do. We don’t like being told we’re wrong. We don’t like being told that we’re headed down the wrong path… Here’s some of the ways we react…

1) We feel the conviction and change also known as repentance. We throw our hands up and surrender “that thing” to God and we go in the opposite direction.

2) We feel the conviction, brag about how “convicted” we felt and than go right back to doing the same exact thing. We just FELT the conviction but we did nothing about it.

3) We attack and judge the vessel that God used to bring about conviction. You know, we accuse that preacher of being “judgmental” because they spoke the TRUTH. See the problem we have isn’t with them. The problem that we have is with God.. But we’re not bold enough to say that and so we blame “them”. If we would be honest, we’re simply upset at “them” because deep down inside, we know that they’re simply reminding us of our rebellion against God and to be truthfully honest, we don’t wanna hear it.

Lets face it. Conviction does not FEEL good. Its like this “ouch”, “that stings” feeling.. Sometimes you can even feel it in your chest.. And though it DOES NOT FEEL GOOD, it is a gift from God. Do we not realize that God loves us TOO much to NOT warn us and convict us, so that we can turn the other way and stop dabbling in whats to destructive to our souls? And yes God uses people. Don’t get mad at the messenger. They’re simply speaking the truth. Its God who we’re really gettin mad at. Its our flesh thats rising up and fighting against what we know in our spirit to be true…

I say all this to say..

We need to stop running away from the truth. We need to stop running to people and things that are just going to make us “feel good” but never challenge us to grow. We need to stop PURPOSELY seeking out watered down messages that ONLY feed our ego and not our spirit, all because “we aint trynna hear that”. Time is running out, and what we need is the unfiltered word of God to change us… So if you’re feeling convicted about anything in your life, please don’t run. Please don’t ignore it. Please don’t get angry. Surrender it. Bring it before God and ask Him to help you change. Thats the whole point of conviction.. To draw us back home to our Father.. I had to learn this in my own life..that I will never grow or mature as long as I keep running from the hard stuff. Don’t run sis. Confront it and confess it to God and He will help you..💞

John 8:31-32 You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings.And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Love yall! Xo