The Self Righteous Christian Girl….


I know I’am not the only one who often looks back at their old Facebook posts and cringe at some of the things I used to post on that thing. You couldn’t of told me that i wasn’t “preaching the truth”. I very well may have been but my “truth telling” was drenched in self-righteousness. It was pride and arrogance cloaked in “just keeping it real”. I thought I was better because I knew bible. I thought I was better because of my decision to wait until marriage. I would of never verbalized it at the time because even I was blinded to my own sin of pride and self-righteousness.

Here is my disclaimer: As believers, we are called to BOLDY preach the truth of Gods word no matter how offensive it may be to some people. We are called to preach the gospel, to edify the body of Christ with our gifts,and to sharpen, rebuke and encourage one another. It IS biblical to correct each other as the holy spirit leads us to. (The bible gives us instruction on how to go about this)  But what is NOT biblical, is being self righteous, stuck up and prideful when it comes to our walk with Christ. Often times we feel like because we’ve been saved for (x) amount of years and know more bible verses than another believer, we are now in the forefront of this spiritual competition when there is none. We look down on the baby believer whose fruit still hasn’t fully developed rather than stepping up to the plate and discipling her rather than judging her. We often write people off or deem people as not as “saved” as we are because we read the King James version and they read the NIV. We set up these subtle standards in our hearts that many times aren’t even biblical and we use that to judge other believers by.

Misplaced Judgement….

The phrase “only God can judge me” is a phrase often used and abused by people who want to do them and not be judged for it. (There is a problem when we as believers use that phrase to justify our sin but that’s another blog for another day) But truth be told, it is not our place to judge people who never claimed to be a Christian in the first place. 1Corinthians 5:12 – “It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning”…Often we spend more time judging the world than going into it and simply preaching the gospel. We often have our nose up at those who are lost rather than showing them where to be found. Mathew 9:36″When he saw the crowds, he had compassion for them because they were confused and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.”


I’m not going to lie. I do believe the word “love” has been perverted not only by the world but even by the church. We’ve take “love” to mean tolerance, passivity and agreement with everything someone says or does. That is not love. We can love people and not agree with their lifestyle. We can love people and still check them BECAUSE we love them. Love speaks truth because love cares more about your soul than it does your feelings but at the same time we can’t forget the very basics of love.

Love is patient and love is kind.

We’ve probably heard this scripture so many times that we fail to really digest and pay attention to what it truly means but I ask you this. Yes you know the word of God back to front. Yes you love the Lord, but do you love people? Are you PATIENT and KIND towards those who may not yet have a certain understanding of things? Do we have the heart of Jesus when we see people who are lost or are we anxious to cast people into hell and write them off because that makes us feel better about ourselves? It should grieve us to see people broken. It should grieve us to see women who feel the need to degrade themselves for useless approval. It should bring us to our knees in prayer and not to our mouths in condemnation and judgement. I say this with love and sincerity: Don’t forget where the Lord brought you from. It is the grace of God and NOTHING but the grace of God that has saved us. It’s not our church attendance. It’s not our social media pages full of Christian quotes. It’s not our purity ring. It’s not our knowledge of theology. It’s not our cute Christian t-shirts. It is the blood of Jesus. You are where you are because of Him. I am where I am because of Him. I pray that God will give us the compassion of Jesus and take away the condemnation of Satan that we often find spewing out of  our lips often disguised as “ministering”. It is Gods will that EVERYONE be saved. Though there will be some who won’t be saved because of their outright choice to deny Jesus whom He sent, let us never forget our first and foremost duty.. to tell the world about who He is.

1 Corinthians 13:1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.


Love y’all so much! xox


“The Lie Behind Chasing Your Destiny”

There’s this idea prevelant in the church that you have to “chase your destiny”. Its this idea that your destiny is this mystery that alludes you that you have to go out and grab hold of. Its an idea that your “destiny” is a certain level or title that God wants you to have and when reached, you’ve officially “arrived”…
I believe we’ve gotten distracted by “chasing our destiny”, rather than simply chasing God. Many of us are chasing elaborate titles & visions (some even God given) but failing to be obedient in the basics of every-day life. 

God annointed David when He was just a kid but there was a process & a pruning that took place before He became “King David”. And even with Him becoming the King” that He was, He was still just a small part in the grand scheme of Gods plan. His purpose wasn’t JUST to be a King but it was to point to Christ. 

If God has given you a vision or an idea, He is the one who will bring it to past. OUR job is simply to submit to Him in all of our ways on a DAILY basis. That is it. As you are prayerful and obedient, He will lead you & guide you in all things. He will show you where to go. He will tell you what to do. You don’t have to obsess over chasing your destiny because your destiny isnt even about YOU. We often long for the title as King and Queen & long for the fancy visions, but God has called us to be servants and disciple makers first…

How many of us are begging God to reveal Our “purpose” but since we’ve gotten saved have NEVER made a disciple or lead someone to the Lord? How often do we ignore our basic & most fundamental purpose: to tell people about Christ, all in exchange for chasing our “destiny” & finding our “purpose”.

Maybe God hasn’t given you this grand revelation that you’re gonna lead millions of people as a pastor or that youre gonna be the author of a thousand books.. But maybe God has spoken to you about what we call “the little things”. Maybe he has been speaking to us about simply getting to work on time.. Or about submitting to the authorities Hes placed in our life. Or maybe Hes been speaking to us about being more bold about our faith not just on sundays. Your “purpose” isnt a final destination. It’s a day by day journey with the holy spirit as your guide. Your destiny is to pour out your life for God in hopes that others will be compelled to do the same. My hope is that I get to the end of my life and see that my “destiny” was fulfilled in being a good and faithful servant.. We don’t need another sermon on how to fulfill our selfish dreams but we do need a revelation of what it means to be obedient to the holy spirit as He leads us to the plans and purposes He has, not just for our lives, but for His kingdom. ❤️

1Cor 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God…
Love yall! Xo


Enduring The Pain Of The Process…

Things happen and they hurt.

As you’re reading this, I have no idea what you’re going through or what kind of pain you may be facing. It could be the death of a loved one, a painful divorce, a sick parent or friend, a bad breakup, I don’t know. What I do know, is what pain feels like. What I do know is what it’s like to feel physically sick because of a burdened and heavy heart. What I do know is what it’s like to be unable to keep your eyes dry. What I do know is what it’s like to feel abandoned and alone as the pressures of life are closing in on you…Meanwhle there’s a part of you that wills to keep pushing, while another part of you wills to  close your bible & just give up…

Pain is real and just because we’re Christians doesn’t mean we’re superhuman & are exempt from experiencing it. It’s fake to pretend as though real life tragedies and situations don’t happen that have the potential to shake our faith…

1Peter 4:12-Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed…

Here’s the deal. 

Suffering is inevitable. Suffering is PROMISED. It is to be EXPECTED. Our very own Savior Jesus Christ suffered unfathomable pain but we can take comfort in knowing that He understands. We can take comfort in knowing that we don’t serve a deadbeat God who abandons us in the midst of trials, but we serve a God who walks with us throught it. I don’t have the words to make the pain go away, but I would just like to encourage you to look UP. It’s okay to hurt and to be in pain but trust me when I say that there is healing & comfort in the prescence of God. This season may be tough as heck but just know that  God is pruning you, breaking you & moulding your character in ways that you may not be able to yet see… And yes, it is amazingly uncomfortable but God has not left you.

I beg you to press into the prescence of God like never before. I pray that this season of brokeness will not make us bitter. I pray that we will walk by faith and not feelings and that we will allow prayer to be our anti-depressants in what could be a depressing season. He is with us. Fight to endure the proccess. Cry hard. Pray harder… Just don’t give up.❤️
P.s There’s this song that I’ve been listening to like crazy that’s been helping me see things the way Gods see’s them. It’s a beautiful song by Marvin Sapp called “He Has His Hands on You” take a listen! 

Love yall!

Three Signs You’ve Made “It” or “Them” an Idol….


1) Their word holds more weight than the word of God in your life. You obey “its” voice when it speaks. When it calls, you answer even if God is telling you NOT to.

2) You defend it. It could be killing you mentally, emotionally or physically but you find a way to defend it against the people who God placed in your life to speak the truth. What you worship, you will defend… even if your defense makes no logical sense. Sin makes us delusional..

3) You’re willing to compromise your God given values just to hold onto it… Values that at one point, you NEVER could of imagined giving up. You start to become unrecognizable to even yourself, because you’ve sacrificed your very soul for this “thing”….

Ex 20:3-4 (NIV) “You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.”

Ask God for forgiveness and return back to your first love….